HI THERE!!!

Firstly let me introduce myself, I am Yvonne and am Zoe Marie's wife of 5 ½ years, although I have known her for about 8 years and to be honest couldn't be happier. I have decided to do this page to let people know about my experience and also to give advice if I can to your partners, who may be confused or worried about your alter ego.

I can still remember the day when Ian (aka Zoe) decided to break the “news”, we were into 3 months of our relationship talking in my bedroom when he turned round and began by saying “I want to tell you something”, at which point he began to tell me about having this alter ego.

I have to be honest and say I was a bit shocked at this revelation but that lasted all of 2 minutes, at which point I remember turning round and saying “And??”. I still laugh out loud when i recall the look on Ian's face, I think he may have thought that he had blown everything – but that's me, very laid back, don't take things at face value and try to understand what the other person must be thinking/going through.

The next step was to slowly introduce Zoe Marie to me, and i remember my stomach flipping with each little step it took. At first I was only comfortable letting him wear women's knickers, no problems there, although in my head I was questioning whether or not I could manage accepting Zoe Marie in full. In fact I remember turning to my Mum one day and asking her if it was “normal” for men to do this sort of thing to which she responded yes but don't encourage it. At this point most people would have given up and called an end to it, but not me, I was starting to feel more and more intrigued and wanted to see more.

A few weeks on and one day i decided to tell Ian that I wanted to see him in some of Zoes clothes (step 2), all I can remember of that day was “bloody hell, better legs than me!!” (Jealous?? You bet!!). A week or two later came time for me to see Zoe with a bit of makeup on, this I have to admit was the hardest part of the transformation to take in. At first it seemed strange and that maybe this isn't right, a man is not supposed to be doing this, but then a voice came into my head and said “don't be judge anyone, no matter what”(My granddad used to say this to me when i had to face a few hard knocks in my childhood – guess it stuck!). This seemed to put me at ease and started to feel strongly drawn to this “new” person.

The final step was the wig along with everything else, clothes, makeup and shoes, and i must admit i was more than jealous and found myself enjoying it at the same time. It didn't take long before I started buying little things here and there for Zoe, even buying underwear/clothes. And Zoe became more and more of a frequent visitor.

And now? Well Zoe comes and goes but i am totally relaxed and happy about it all and wouldn't be without this extra person in my life, I have someone I can go shopping with for the latest fashions and shoes (of course!). I have also been out on a couple of nights to events for TV's and partners and can honestly say that I enjoy these nights better than ordinary nights out, it is far more relaxed and people are a lot easier to talk to.

To anybody out there who has a partner that doesn't know about their “other side” but would like to tell them, the best way i feel to do this is to sit down in a quiet moment and be open and honest about what you do and why. The biggest thing to mention is that just because you like to dress up doesn't mean you want to become a woman full time – this was one of my biggest insecurities and took the longest to dissolve completely.

I feel that lying about it will only cause hurt, you are in a relationship and should always be open and honest about anything that affects you both. Nobody else needs to know, it doesn't affect their lives as much as it affects yours and your partners.

All that's left to say is that after the length of time it took me to accept Zoe in full, i am immensely proud of her and would never look back, she is amazing – and so are all of you!!!

If you or your partner want to talk or get some advice, please feel free to email me and i will endeavor to be of some help.

In the meantime keep smiling all you lovely ladies!!!

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